About Kelli Sites

Formerly a corporate ladder climber, now a calmer, wiser writer Mama. Jeep family, bunch of animals. Slayer of ADHD. I write, shoot, strategize, quilt and pray -- a lot.

Brain Scan.. Not as pretty as my artwork…

This post speaks for itself.

Ray Ferrer - Emotion on Canvas

Dearest friends, fans, FAMILY!
Please reblog, share, tweet, FB, you name it!

Over the years it has been my freehand spray paint artwork that many of you are accustomed to seeing.  There will be more but for now, there is this.  My wife and I are working hard on keeping you up to date.  We are blown away by the more than 60K followers who show there support to us daily on the blog and other social media platforms!

So, here is a scan of my brain and the Tumor is circled. Its bigger than first thought.  On the 9th I have one more MRI w/ spectroscopy to determine the rate of growth and cell types.  Then it gets really hairy.

Ray Brain

I am doing the best I can to be in good spirits and will continue to strive! It really helps knowing I have touched so many people with my artwork…

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Nature The Healer

There are days when it’s enough to share someone else’s extraordinary writing rather than piece together something of your own. If you’re drawn to brave, soul-exploring writing, you will love A Mindful Warrior. I can’t say whether he considers himself a writer, but it doesn’t matter as long as he continues to express his perspectives of being human. enjoy.

A Mindful Warrior

I want to escape to the wilderness,
Quiet and healing,
Non judgemental,
Where alpine air fills my lungs
With the breath of solitude.
The winds shift my thoughts
To a merger whisper.
The howling moon,
Soothes the wounds of foreign lands
Aimless as I am.
I fall into a rhythm of survival,
Of working tools into a beat,
As life conjures beneath my feet.
I think of love,
And if it was ever for me,
And how far do I have to run away,
Before I’m robbed of it’s stinging taste.

As the Earth quiet,
It sings a lullaby,
Stars illuminate as it hums a symphony,
And the rhythmic swaying of tree branches,
Causes me to drift to a land of sublime,
The ground breathes a sigh,
Collecting the memories from a wounded heart,
And transporting it into the belly burned by molten core and gravitation.

Nature is a beast,

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Is this the Rise or Fall of Social Influence?


Online business chats are the reason I love (and stay) with Twitter. Today, I have the pleasure of moderating #smchat on the topic of Influence.


Has social media (and we as its masters) stripped away the meaningful value of influence?

Over the last few weeks that thought has nagged me until at last I threw it at my friend Chris Jones (@sourcepov) for a sanity check.

DM with SourcePOV

If you know Chris, then his reply to my pondering will come as no surprise. “OMG, how awesome. This is a conversation made for #smchat.” So that’s how easily we arrived at the Thought Du Jour for the December 17 edition of our online chat.

Here’s a little contextual framework for our conversation

Influencers – and influence – mean different things to different people.  But let’s run with the description I snagged from TheNextWeb that says “Influencers are the power users and authorities. They lend credence to products or services and they elevate conversations. Influencers are experts; the trusted voices with social capital.”

Fair enough, influencers are people in the know.

But what’s…

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Social Accountability: 1 of 6 Building Blocks in a Social Change Framework


The Language of Social Accountability. Can you put words to desired outcomes? COMING TO TERMS.  Wittgenstein argued that language shapes what is possible. In terms of Social Accountability, can we do better at linking actions and expectations to concrete outcomes?

It’s not unusual to grapple with accountability in both our organizations and our personal lives. More often than not, it’s about taking ownership and following through on commitments.

So what makes accountability is social ecosystems so difficult?

For starters, it’s a numbers game. A community has lots of people with lots of different opinions. That diversity of thinking can foster resilience but it can also block consensus, making it hard to establish common ground.  Add the nuances of culture and language, and it’s no wonder social change is fraught with confusion. It’s a virtual Tower of Babel. Just ask America’s Founding Fathers; even with shared interests and goals, finding a viable long-term structure them took decades.

Not everyone loves semantics, I know…

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Remembering Dad and Donuts



Twenty years ago, I moved away to L.A. shortly after my Pop was diagnosed with inoperable cancer. He was 61. In short order it moved to his brain, so quickly that he (and we) didn’t make it through the (textbook) stages of death and dying.

Six months after I moved across the country, Dad passed away. I was with him when he and his diminished, pain-wracked body fought to part ways. It was excruciating to watch, to see and to feel. I was witness to a violent separation of body and soul.

It remains the most profound experience of my life. Although people may say child birth and becoming a parent is life’s most incredible moment, I contend it is not. When a child is born, we become MORE. We are “added to.” We have introduced someone new to the Universe.

When we bury a parent, we suddenly feel less, feel untethered.

We are that child again, who did or didn’t get what we hoped we’d get from that parent. We are the child who was still in the process of a lifelong vow… Perhaps to prove them wrong. To make them proud… To repay their sacrifices… To splurge on them…To show them you aren’t a child any longer… That you are an adult.

So, decades years later, I’m still working on those subconscious vows I made to and because of my Dad. Sometimes they’ve served me well; sometimes not so much.

None-the-less, I know he’s proud of me, I know that I’ve passed the best of Robert W Smith onto my own son, and that funerals are grossly overpriced (he was a mortician).

As the sun comes up on the anniversary of his passing, I’m celebrating the ways he shaped and colored my world:

  • Art is worth slowing down to learn and make
  • Photos are part of the legacy we leave
  • Don’t rush the process when rolling coins
  • If your best takes longer than others, stand firm. It’s YOUR best, not theirs.
  • Enter the day slowly, preferably with soggy Corn Flakes
  • End the day in solitude
  • Burden no-one with pain or negativity that they aren’t equipped to handle
  • Give someone your smile most especially when all they have is tears
  • Honor someone’s privacy, guard the secrets given to you in confidence
  • Always be the one still waving
  • Appreciate clean bathrooms; it means someone takes pride in their job
  • Coffee with friends isn’t about the coffee
  • We are not the physical body we wear in this life; none-the-less while we are here, sometimes that’s hard to grasp
  • Apologies are hard; sometimes they come on the wings of time instead of being wrapped in words
  • Naps are good, especially the kind when you collapse exhausted diagonally across the bed
  • Penmanship makes a statement
  • Everyone deserves a matching pen and pencil set
  • Keep your bed head private
  • One day you’ll be glad you saved all of those TV guides
  • Being at your child’s recital, game or special event, isn’t nearly as important as making sure they know you believe in them
  • Have faith in the Cubbies, always say goodnight, and keep some emergency snacks on hand

And last but not least…

Sundays are made for donuts.

Pick Extraordinary People


Who are you?

“You are most like the five people you spend time with,” so goes the saying.

Sure, sure. It makes sense. We spend time with the people who make us feel good (the definition of good being a relative and deeply personal one).  We hang with people who affirm what we know (or hope) is true.

I decided to name what makes my people so special. Not just special to me…I went bigger. How do the people I know make this sometimes-really-shitty-frustrating-and-imbalanced-planet a better place to live?

See for yourself.

I put those ass-kickin friends in this Wordle:


The answers humbled me. I pinched myself. I said “Self, do you even KNOW how blessed you are? Do you even GET that you run among remarkable people?”  Yeah, I know. I really do know.

So, who are YOUR people?

Forget, for now, what it says about you. But who are they? Don’t stop with the five people closest to you; consider anyone who influences your life.

What is their mark on the world? What is the imprint they leave on you? If your experience is anything like mine, this is an exercise in extraordinary gratitude.

Dwarfed. And okay.

Funny thing is, I don’t see myself perfectly reflected among my friends. I see myself as a dwarf among giants.  These people do, see, and say things I need three lifetimes to have the balls to do.  What I do see, though, in every one of them is the person I hope to be.

And for now, I’m pretty okay with being a work in progress — and I’m banking on their goodness rubbing off on me.

Your turn ~ If you do this exercise, let me know. I’d love to see what you came up with.

P.S. If you aren’t familiar with Wordle, give it a whirl. It’s a simple, free word cloud creation site that allows you to form mini works of word art.    

How Will Story and Social Media Change the World? (#smchat)


“Stories have to be told or they die, and when they die, we can’t remember who we are or why we’re here.” ~ Sue Monk Kidd, The Secret Life of Bees

Have you ever noticed that change starts and travels on the back of story? Whether the change is big or small, plays out on the world’s stage or within the boundaries of a close-knit group, it began with a story that appealed to the human condition. Perhaps that makes sense to you. Nothing captures and conveys the human condition better than story. Historians and psychologists have long said that storytelling defines and binds our humanity.


Despite its ancient roots (the earliest known record of story telling dates back to 2580 B.C.), story has found a new fast-burning fuel. Something in OUR modern time has altered the way we connect through the aid of story.

Enter social media.

Social media has given…

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